Join a Gang but be like The Spice Girls

I love New Year’s Resolutions.  I get that it’s not cool to like resolutions because you should be living your best life everyday, and I am all about that, but hear me out.  New Year’s Resolutions give you a chance to reflect on where you’ve been and where you are going. It’s like standing on both sides of a State line. One foot in Georgia and one in South Carolina, or whichever States you want to imagine. The point is it’s this perfect space to be both. Past thinking and forward thinking.

I think self-reflection can be useless unless it leads to action.  All this to say, that this year I spent a long time reflecting and am aggressively putting all that deep thinking and soul searching into action.

So, I decided a needed a gang, but not like MS-13 (not that that’s exactly what you thought of when I said that), but more like The Spice Girls.  The Spice Girls are all different. Each one has their own identity.  They probably don’t all agree on what to watch on t.v. or where to eat.  I don’t really remember their music much. I wasn’t really a fan, but I love the idea of them.  Sporty Spice and Posh Spice trying to agree on a restaurant…this thing just writes itself. I know it’s a silly idea, but it’s awesome and something I deeply wanted.  Not to be a Spice Girl, but to me, all of me, and have a squad of equally badass women.

I have friends, lots of acquaintances, and some very close lifelong besties.  But, my day to day life has been filled with convenient relationships with people that probably wouldn’t like me very much if they really knew me, the me that exists under the appearance, or the me that writes this blog.  And those kind of friends are draining. It’s so hard to keep up appearances and make small talk. After some serious soul searching I knew I needed to join a gang. Obviously, I love this analogy and am going to ride it all the way out.

I’m very happy to report that my gang resolution is going very well!  I have found my people!! Perk that there was no gang initiation required, just honesty, and while that took a lot of bravery, there were no actual murders.  I’m not going to tell you their stories, because if I did I would have to kill you. I’m totally kidding, but I also think everyone gets to have their own story and I will never write about anyone else’s story here, just mine. And this year’s story is starting out pretty spectacularly. Wishing each of you authentic, deep connections this year and always!

Love~Erin